So yesterday the CHF and I were having a conversation about an incident that happened to me as a child that involved my dear older sister causing me bodily harm. For some reason CHF brought this up last night and asked why her loving aunt could have done something like that. I told her I didn't know but that it really hurt. CHF then proceeded to tell me that I could have used an "I statement" to let her know how I felt.
Fast forward/flash back: The CHF and I were then in the kitchen discussing some things and I questioned why she called me a "Marmaduke" over the weekend during one of her fits of rage. She indicated that she was angry at the time that she said it. I decided to employ the "I statement" approach she'd just taught me.
Mom: "I feel hurt when you say things like that to me. I feel bad when you call me names"
CHF (without malice or skipping a beat): Oh good, that's what I was trying to do.
Once again, she wins.
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